1. Sally Sprague
    Sally Sprague January 15, 2020 at 5:20 pm | | Reply

    That was beautiful and a real eye opener great job many thanks for that cast and many thanks to Arlene and becky and all staff and residents .Brought tears to my eyes

  2. Rachel
    Rachel January 15, 2020 at 7:11 pm | | Reply

    Erica, you truly captured the essence of the place and the spirit of the wonderful people there. They do an amazing job of caring for each other. Love is evident indeed. Great job!

  3. Sydney McDowell
    Sydney McDowell January 16, 2020 at 5:40 pm | | Reply

    Beautiful story ~ anyone near Portland Maine ~ ?

  4. Alan
    Alan January 16, 2020 at 5:56 pm | | Reply

    Absolutely beautiful episode, Erica. Thanks for being such a good listener (and empathetic producer).

  5. Lindy Sayward
    Lindy Sayward January 17, 2020 at 8:49 pm | | Reply

    Well done. Captured the essence of the house, but also the importance of building community based on caring and love and just holding the space to “be”. Important to get this model of community living out there. Thanks.

  6. Michel from Switzerland
    Michel from Switzerland January 18, 2020 at 12:33 pm | | Reply

    A very moving and touching episode. Perfectly done!

  7. Kirsten
    Kirsten January 19, 2020 at 10:53 am | | Reply

    Really lovely. I live in a *tiny* town in Maine and can’t help but believe a place like this would be a blessing to us here.

  8. Bob Metz
    Bob Metz January 19, 2020 at 4:13 pm | | Reply

    Thank you Arlene for all that you did for David and for all that the community he lived in at Joslyn House meant to him . You are a remarkable person who brings so much to so many.

    One of his friends

    1. Kelly Green
      Kelly Green January 20, 2020 at 10:02 am | | Reply

      Thank you for posting, Bob!

  9. Thomas
    Thomas January 19, 2020 at 5:58 pm | | Reply

    What a poignant piece is “Joslyn House”—on a subject that haunts so many minds (like mine): how will we live when we’re old?

    Your story feels to me like a sober soulful celebration of an oasis for our elders at the ends of their roads. I love the way the show starts: with the dreamy voice of a brightminded lady asking about the making of the show that she herself is part of. (I like her later jag too, speaking about the news in the newspapers rustling in the hands of her housemates…)

    The piece reveals itself patiently, and conjures awakening through remembering—listening, I felt as if a dream I’ve always been living was being revealed me; I was seeing it while I was hearing it…

    Such memorable moments along the way…a man tickled to chuckles by the memory of his having to share a bathroom for the first time in his life—at the end of his life…his later description of life as a mountain climb…a woman’s gentle rhapsody on how she fell in love with coffee…another woman’s singing of “Yes We Have No Bananas” while a rock band wails that love is a wave in the air…

  10. Jerry Ward
    Jerry Ward January 27, 2020 at 9:11 pm | | Reply

    I was deeply impressed by the heart felt comments by a few proud folks who made their choice for Joslyn House because they did not want to live alone, but, more poignant, not wanting to live lonely. That is an insidious problem with the elderly. Too often they try to stay fiercely independent too long, get too lonely , health suffers and by the time they are ready to move to a group setting, they are beyond the point of being able to appreciate the new connections such facilities offer. So, way to go, Joslyn House, for encouraging elders to make the decision to stay engaged in more timely fashion. And, way to go, Erica, for stimulating the tough conversation.

  11. Sue
    Sue January 29, 2020 at 10:23 pm | | Reply

    The Joslyn House is the greatest place, this was amazing. My stepmother died at the Joslyn, so grateful for Arlene to let us bring her from the hospital to what she called home for a long long time. Hospice came in and family members where able to stay with her. Just like the story arlene was talking about, didn’t matter how many were there, the home was always considerate of us. Always making sure we had what we needed etc. Thank you for doing this, it was wonderful.

  12. Adam D. Greene
    Adam D. Greene February 3, 2020 at 2:35 pm | | Reply

    This podcast captures almost everything that I have come to think about social connection as we age and what we need to do to have more socially connected communities. I changed careers to help solve the staggering burden of loneliness on older adults and on the system that cares for them. For the last couple of years I have been going on and on to whomever I could get to listen about building a new infrastructure of community that is authentic, appropriate and supportive without having any idea what it could look like. I think for many communities it looks like Joslyn House. The story about the man who died with his friends coming and playing music and everyone celebrating and supporting him captures it all. Authenticity, independence, support. I also loved the story about the man learning to share a bathroom—the accommodations we will make to maintain our independence and dignity as long as we get to make the choice.

    I was also struck by the bravery of the people who overcame stigma to move to Joslyn House in order to make their lives valuable to themselves. It reminded me of the great admonition “If I am not for myself who will be? If I am only for myself what am I?”

    Since listening to the podcast I keep thinking about how can my company (Klaatch) and our partners, clients and collaborators make room for people to be brave and choose community?

    Thank you for this gift.

  13. Joan Starr
    Joan Starr February 4, 2020 at 1:02 pm | | Reply

    Wow–Erica, I can’t thank you enough for this episode. I loved every minute. I wish the founders of Joslyn House had the time and inclination to franchise their vision/model. We need about a million of these places. Anyway, may the sun shine down on you today for bringing this story forward!

  14. Kelly Green
    Kelly Green February 8, 2020 at 10:56 pm | | Reply

    I think you can just live at JH with me, Erica.

  15. Beth
    Beth January 2, 2021 at 5:43 pm | | Reply

    I just loved listening to this episode. I grew up in Randolph and my mom has talked about Joslyn House for years, but despite that, I hadn’t fully understood what the house is– basically voluntary communal living for elders. The part about David who died at Joslyn House was particularly moving. I also find Erica’s skill with collating her material so masterful– the ending of the oranges part was so funny I laughed aloud while cooking dinner. Thank you Erica for bringing the state I grew up in so much closer to me in London, and for teaching me more about the human condition at the same time.

  16. Todd T Milazzo
    Todd T Milazzo February 28, 2021 at 3:55 pm | | Reply

    Thanks to tears, for this one, Erica.
    My Grandmother was my housemate when I was at VTC, until she had a series of TIAs. After a brief stay at Gifford, I moved her to Joslyn House, which became her home, and my second home, for many years. I stopped by last fall to visit a perennial which was planted there in her honor, and visited with Becky for a while. I didn’t get to see Arlene and Al, so your show was a lovely reminder of how lucky we were to have been in the Randolph area when our time of need arose.

  17. Todd Milazzo
    Todd Milazzo March 1, 2021 at 12:00 am | | Reply

    Magic, indeed, and like heaven when a musician passes.
    It’s a place I would be lucky to retire to, but before I do, it sounds like there is a desire for more places like this to be created – if in fact such magic can be replicated.

  18. John
    John November 24, 2021 at 10:43 am | | Reply

    Loved the story. My mom has found a new love at 79, and this story made me realize how wonderful that is. We will celebrate her at thanksgiving!

  19. Elizabeth
    Elizabeth January 1, 2023 at 9:43 am | | Reply

    I tried to listen to this Podcast episode on my phone Podcast app and here on the website. But the episode that plays does not appear to be about Joslyn House. I enjoyed hearing the episode that played about Susan Randall and turning 50. Is it possible to still hear the episode about the independent living home somewhere? Thank you.

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